Teri recently asked me what the deal is with my blog title, which made me realize other people are probably wondering as well. I figured I’d make a post about it in case anyone was interested.
Interesting that this is following my crazy Italy post, but my title originated because of my love of all things Italian. When I created a public blog, I had no idea what to call it. Creativity is not just “not my strong point,” it’s, like, the weakest thing about me ever. I knew I wanted something interesting and unusual but I couldn’t figure out what. Since I had no idea what the “theme” of my blog would even be (and let’s be real, I still don’t!), it was even harder to settle on a name.
I Googled Italian quotes and proverbs to get ideas, and I found one I liked: O mangiar questa minestra o saltar questa fine. It literally means either eat this soup or jump out of this window, but proverbially it means “take it or leave it.”
I went with it because it was entertaining, catchy, and weird, but also because I appreciate the sentiment. “Take it or leave it” is something I have to remind myself a lot. You know… in the sense of “this is how it is, deal with it or don’t.” For example, knowing I have one of the BRCA mutations sucks, yes. But I can take it or leave it – I can appreciate the knowledge for what it is and do what I can to save my own life, or I can bury my head in the sand and ignore it, but have a lot of consequences in the end.
I can embrace the life I have, all of its issues and craziness, and get as much out of it as I can… or I can spend all my time wishing things were different without actually making any changes, and thus not get anything out of what I actually have. Take it or leave it, right?
It seemed fitting at the time in terms of being a twenty-something trying to figure life out. I was in a place of really wishing I had a different life instead of being content with what I’ve been given. I needed to learn to take it or leave it (and of course, in most cases in my life, “take it” is the better choice!). It made even more sense once I went through all the BRCA nonsense.
So there we have it! I wasn’t sure about it at first but it’s ended up being a title I like quite a bit.